How I can help

A lot of people come to me worried they won’t know what to say, or that they’ve never been any good at talking about how they feel. If that’s you, please don’t let it stop you. Talking is one way in, but it isn’t the only one.

Here’s something I’ve learned. When we only talk, we tend to stay up in the thinking, sensible part of our minds, the part that’s very good at keeping us safe and saying the “right” thing. Working visually and creatively slips gently past all that and reaches somewhere deeper and more honest. It often surprises people how much comes up, and how calm and clear they feel afterwards.

So alongside talking, we can work creatively whenever it helps. That might look like:

• Buttons: I’ve got a big box of them. Choosing which button stands for which person in your life, and where you place them, quietly says far more than words often can.
• Postcards: When you can’t find the words for a feeling, we can let an image find them for you.
• Timelines: Laying out your life so you can actually see its shape, and notice the patterns you’ve been living inside.
• Russian dolls: A gentle way to reach the younger you, the little one who sometimes still needs looking after.

You don’t need to be “creative,” and there’s never any pressure. It’s simply another door into the same room, and people often tell me they came to me because they couldn’t find this way of working anywhere else. We’ll only ever use what feels right for you.